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Maybe your dad has never expressed his love for you as openly as your mom, or maybe you’ve had your share of arguments over the years with him because the two of you have never seen eye to eye on any topic, but the truth is that your dad sure does love you and care about you. So why not try and improve your relationship with him starting today? Read on for some tips.
- Figure Out What’s Wrong
This requires deep introspection. You can’t just blame your dad for all that’s wrong between you and him. Perhaps your expectations are different and you’re blind to the things he does for you to show he cares. Take time out to think about all the times you’ve been disappointed, the fights you’ve had, and find a pattern. You’re sure to find the answer.
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- Work On It
If you’re able to find the solution by yourself, great! You can also consider taking an expert opinion – that of a counsellor or therapist – to talk about any issues or mental or emotional roadblocks. Work on yourself, where required.
- Change Your Point Of View
Perhaps you’ve realised what it really is about your dad that ticks you off. Maybe he always criticises you, but that could just be his way of pushing you to excel. Try to look at things from his perspective. Ask yourself what would you do in a similar situation, or how would you rather have your dad handle it.
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- Reconnect
Once you realise what the probable reason for you two drifting apart is, make the effort to reconnect with him. Remember, your dad loves you, so even if you’ve not spoken to him or met him in a while, if you reach out to him, he’s sure to welcome you with open arms. Take the help of your mom or another family member, if required.
- Act On The Learnings
Simply knowing what’s wrong in any relationship won’t make any difference; you have to apply the learnings to daily life to bring about change. So, if you want your relationship with your father to improve, work for the same. Change how you behave, act, react. At the same time, sit down to have an honest conversation with your dad. Be calm and patient as you don’t want this to turn into another argument. Say your piece, accept your mistakes, tell him about your expectations, and what you would like him to do differently.
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- Getting Close
Talk about things of common interest or do an activity together. Even going out for grocery shopping can help you bond. Avoid topics that you know will turn into an argument. Set clear boundaries for both of yourselves and respect them. Reminisce the good times you’ve shared, and look forward to celebrating more happy moments together, like Father’s Day, birthdays, and more.
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