Society puts a lot of pressure on youngsters to get married. Once they get married, they are pressured into having children. It’s an endless cycle. There’s always somebody telling you when is the right time to do things. But when it comes to becoming a parent, giving the steering wheel of your life to someone else is all the more dangerous - both for yourself and your baby. When you bring a life into the world, it’s forever your responsibility to protect it. You can’t back out mid-way. And if you don’t give it your all, it will reflect in the child’s upbringing. So make sure you’re absolutely ready for it. These steps will help determine if you are:
Set Your Priorities
Different people have different priorities at every stage of life. Some may want to focus on their career and have kids later, and others may want it the other way around. Some may not want to have kids at all. Becoming a parent is as much a personal choice as anything else, so don’t be pressurized into it. Know your priorities and stick to them unapologetically.
Assess Your Finances
Raising a child is expensive. Every little thing they need, right from their toys to their education, will be paid for from your pocket. If you’re not financially stable, you’re not ready for it. Becoming a parent, after all, is as much a monetary decision as it is an emotional one. Make sure you have a large enough corpus of money saved up before you take the plunge.
Get A Fertility Test Done
Society propagates having kids early, as that’s when you’re most fertile. However, the truth is, everyone’s biological clock is different and as long as you get your fertility checked periodically and the doctor assures you that you can bear children later, it’s okay to postpone becoming a parent.
Speak To Your Partner
It takes a village to raise a child, they say, but everyone can’t afford a retinue of helpers. Now imagine having to do it all alone! That’s why it’s important that both you and your partner should be ready to be parents. Only then it is a good decision. Even if one partner feels emotionally, physically or financially underprepared, it can pose serious challenges to your marriage. So make sure you’re on the same page.
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