I was called selfish just because I had a job

by | November 24, 2017, 0:00 IST


Why has Indian society crafted some unwritten rules for women, and most importantly, why do these rules apply only to women?

I am thankful to my parents that they brought me up without laying any special emphasis on my gender. Unfortunately, most of the people in our society are not like my parents. It has created roles, responsibilities, duties and boundaries for the female gender and it's highly frustrating.
I was a working woman before marriage, but I had to leave my job as my husband was settled in some other city. I gave up my job willingly because I knew that a city cannot be a barrier for an educated person to find a job.

I moved to the new city with my husband. Life was comfortable for my husband and my in-laws because I stayed at home and their son got everything on time and stayed in a house that I kept neat and clean. Months passed by and I kept behaving like a good housewife. Everything was a bed of roses for everybody, in fact, even for me, as I was lost in the happiness of this new phase of my life.

It is not that I underestimate housewives, but I was not ready to become one at that point of time, and thus I started my job hunt.  I did not get a job immediately but I kept trying. I considered my husband to be very supportive and discussed the problems I faced while job hunting. Finally, my efforts were rewarded and I landed a job in that city.

After a month, my husband declared that he wanted to shift to a new city for his career development. I requested him to stay for at least the next six months as I was new to the job and it would have been unprofessional to quit so early. But he stuck to his decision. Disheartened, I started looking for a new job again and it was very frustrating. Just fifteen days were left before we moved to the new city and I still didn't have a job in hand. But then a miracle happened—I got selected in a big MNC.

We moved to the new city and started enjoying our lives, but it did not go down well with my in-laws. They were very orthodox and could not tolerate the fact that a husband and wife were earning almost equally. They could not tolerate our happiness. Thus, started the family drama. As a rule, the duty of a son is far above the duty of a husband, and one of the foremost duty of a son is to disbelieve his wife just because his family has asked him to do so. Things got bad and continue to grow worse as I write this.

My husband's love and care vanished and all he had in his heart for me was hatred. Just because I have a good job, I was labelled as selfish, characterless, proud and what not. I was even told that my success is a blessing from my husband, and it is not the fruit of my struggle and education.

Why on earth should a girl earn less than her husband and compromise with her career so that she can concentrate more on her household chores? Why does a man have to remain only a son and brother throughout his life? Why do in-laws need to create a feud between husband and wife? It's high time every man wakes up and grows up. Stop making your wife's life hell for no reason.

—By Anonymous

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